Trigger wanting - this post talks about depression, and refers to disordered eating.
Like most things in life, the New Year is marked with ceremony. A lot of this ceremony revolves around changes, resolutions, and a belief in self betterment.
That said, it won't be news to anyone that a commitment to a New Year's resolutions is typically filled with a myriad of self chastisement and regret. We tend to adopt new habits in January to 'make up' for our behaviour over December. So here's the thing - stop that. Stop it right the f**k now.
I don't want to labor the point, but you do not, in any way, need to account or make up for your Christmas revelry.
"you do not, in any way, need to account or make up for your Christmas revelry."
So when it comes to making changes in January, how do you do it in a way that isn't destructive? It's tough - no doubt about it. I can tell you from personal experience that very often the same actions can fundamentally effect you in very different ways. For example, I've spent 10 hours in bed before because I was giving my body time to relax and recover. I've also spent 10 hours in bed because I was depressed and couldn't imagine moving. So what's the difference? Well for me, and I'd recommend it for you, it's about the energy you take in to the actions you make.
I've spent 10 hours in bed before because I was giving my body time to relax and recover. I've also spent 10 hours in bed because I was depressed and couldn't imagine moving.
Energy. Mindset. Intention. Call it whatever you want but it revolves around the beliefs that we attribute to the actions we make. Let's take diet culture as an example of this -(side note, diet culture needs to get in the bin - the only thing you need to cut out from your diet is the packaging.... No food should make you feel guilty). In January, a great many people view their food intake as something to be limited - we need to reduce calories, eat less, drink less. For many, this manifests as Dry January (something I am in fact doing). But here's the kicker - what energy are you taking into Dry January? Personally, I'm approaching it as a month to balance my activity - I enjoyed family and friends over Christmas, so I'm enjoying more personal growth during January. Maybe that's semantics to you, but to me, that's energy.
Energy is about the way we view our actions. It's about the way we talk to ourselves - which should, at all times, be kind. Make no mistake, you can hold yourself accountable to a regime, a schedule and a meal plan, but the intention of these things should be enabling and be done with a mindset of self-care, not because you deserve to limit or punish yourself.
For a great many, this will sound like some soft-boiled karmic bullshit approach to fitness. That's simply not the case. This is about being the best version of yourself. The happiest version of yourself. That version can also be someone who runs fast and jumps high.
So whatever you do this January, do it with the right energy. A self serving energy that places kindness at its core.